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The Art of Doing It

November 30, 2011 1 comment

Whatever turns up, grab it and do it. And heartily! This is your last and only chance at it, For there’s neither work to do nor thoughts to think in the company of the dead, where you’re most certainly headed. I took another walk around the neighborhood and realized that on this earth as it is. The race is not always to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, nor satisfaction to the wise, nor riches to the smart, nor grace to the learned.

We all know a few thousand people or so personally who have read some of the most inspiring books of all time and even the good book itself, however for most of them, when they close the book that is the end of it all. Most people when motivated are only inspired to dream and never really grasp the art of doing it. Success is something that manifests when you do something and not when you speak it or dream it. Speaking and dreaming are but an ingredient to the final product. The art of doing it is simple it takes only a few awareness point that we shall point out today. Talk is cheap and reading without action is even cheaper, the cheaper your investments the less valuable your rewards.

Life is a journey of time and accountability, and hence there will never been another time as the time that just passed now. The time at two o’clock is not the same as the time at one past two. In a more expressive way, two people can never see the same thing in the same way and hence events in time can never be identical. An opportunity can present itself every day but on each day the events it can affect and the events that affect it will never be the same. Simply put, if you do not use the time you have at that moment in the now, do not expect to reap the same harvest if you plant to tomorrow. A second can be the difference between investing in a successful product and completely losing out on a good future. So the first point in the art of doing it is that, time is equal to action.

Most people do not understand what time is hence they think its numbers moving on a clock or simply the setting of the sun. Time measures events, it measures the going and the coming of the sun, the aging and the growth of people, the birth and the death of dreams. The secret of time is simple, time is just events. If you spend time sleeping then sleep is your time and you get the reward of sleep. If you spend time planning then blue prints are your time and what you have is a plan as your result. If you spend your time selling products then cash is your time and the result of that is money. Every time you delay in time, delay becomes your time and your investment, whilst every time you act then that action becomes your investment and you reap what you sow. When you look at the time you are actually looking at the events in your life or in the world. So most people speak in error when they say it is time to sleep for example because they are thinking time defines their actions. You do not sleep because it is night time you sleep because you decide to sleep. You are the one who defines the time according to the events.

Some people are very good at knowing time or rather understanding time, simple because they understand that time is a series of events. These people have understood that when they look at days they are looking at the summary of events and potential events. In the end they know exactly what to do because they are living their lives in relation to the events that they can influence or they can use to their advantage. Hence these people can create large corporations like Microsoft, Facebook, De Beers, Rolex and the list goes on.

It does not matter how fast, wise or strong you are in life; if you never learn to understand time and use time then you are just as foolish as the person who sits on gold and cries for cash not realizing that the gold is ten times more worth than the paper given to them. So most people will tell you how they read Rich Dad and Poor Dad, some will sit and listen to the greatest inspirational speeches ever said but if they never implement then all they did was read and listen. The only thing you reap from reading and listening is that you store up information and that is it.

What’s there to show for your lifetime of work, a lifetime of working your fingers to the bone, slaving through the days? One generation goes its way, the next one arrives, but nothing changes, it’s business as usual for old planet earth. The sun comes up and the sun goes down, then does it again, and again, the same old round. The wind blows south, the wind blows north. Around and around and around it blows, blowing this way, then that–the whirling, erratic wind. All the rivers flow into the sea, but the sea never fills up. The rivers keep flowing to the same old place, and then start all over and do it again. If your life is like that then you are not using time at all, you then become just another event to pass and die having lived an ordinary regular uneventful life.

To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under the heavens: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pull up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. What are you doing with your time I wonder, sitting and wondering, dreaming yourself closer to the grave and waiting for the end in the routine of a non eventful life.

Ecc 3:1, Ecc 1:3, Ecc 9:10
Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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Five Shocking Reasons Why People Get Married

November 28, 2011 Leave a comment

A lot of people get married and most of the times more than half have no idea why they get married or really think about why they did. There are various reasons why people get married and in this article we shall explore the top five and only one of these actually makes sense.

Mum and Dad Syndrome
Most people are looking for a mum in the case of the men while in the case of a woman they are looking for a dad. So you find in some marriages that the wife will say that she has two children and one grown up child, the grown up child being the husband, after all she has to pick after him all the time. On the other hand the husband tells his closest friends that his wife cannot make decisions and is just a baby who wants him to do everything for her. Unfortunately it is true, most people are looking for their mothers and fathers in the relationships that they have. Such marriages are usually characterized with comparisons and heavy in-law influence. When there is a problem one of the two will run to their mum or dad for comfort or advice before even resolving things simply because they never learnt to deal with issues outside their mum and dad. In such marriages silly decisions are usually made.

The Wishing Well
Some people on the other hand get married because they believe the other person can fulfill their dreams. For example one person may think that they will never be able to make it in life so they find another person who can buy things for them, such things as houses, cars, take care of their children, take care of their parents, take care of their education and the list goes on and on. In such marriages there is one person who is the giver in material terms and the other is the giver in physical terms. These relationships can be either way, it can be the man or the woman who is the dependent. The other characteristics about such marriages is that they usually have very flashy and plush weddings in which one of them insists for the flashy wedding to subconsciously parade their catch so as to say. These can also be called trophy marriages as in which one someone is being paraded.

The Cultural Marriage
In the cultural marriage people get married because that is what humans are supposed to do. There is no real reason for the marriage but just that it is what must be done. Such marriages started out with a relationship in which the two professed love for each other which in most cases was not real or necessary. As time went on everyone started to see them as a couple and expected them to get married. As such the peer pressure and societal pressure resulted in them arranging a wedding and getting married. In some cases a baby may have been involved, in which during the relationship the girl got pregnant and hence according to culture it automatically meant that they should get married. Most of these marriages are characterized by sadness and lots of sacrifices. One of the two or both end up sacrificing their dreams in order to make the marriage work never ever realizing their dreams because they got married before it was time or they are just living with the wrong person. Some of these marriages are arranged or just planned by the parents and the two people really do not have a say in it. As time goes the two learn to accept their situation and just live with it and try to make the best out of it. Once in a while they will even try to prove to everyone that they are happy but deep down they know things could be different.

The Physical Addicts
This one is simple and stupid because they don’t know each other, have never understood each other but enjoyed the physical connection. In less than a few weeks or months they get married and wake up one year later and the other one is having an affair. These marriages are the fastest to divorces. Usually in these type of marriages they probably met at some function, some club, some party and just hit it off. They probably slept together within three dates of first meeting and never really knew each other. These marriages result in babies very fast and result in single parents very fast also. No need to write more on these ones.

The Partner
Perhaps the best reason for getting married is the partnership, in which two people understand their goals in life and have more in common than they do not have. In this type the two know what each one wants in the future and how they will achieve it. They are prepared to support each other without even thinking about it and believe that they can. They seem to have a connection or bond as sometimes they think in the same way. When they say words like I love you they mean they will do what they can to make each other’s dreams come true and will sacrifice for one another. This type of marriage is difficult to attain as it needs patience and belief. Most people fail to reach it simply because they rush into relationships and end up in the four reasons above.

Conclusion
In conclusion everyone reading this article knows where they fall in the above reasons. Sometimes it is a secret but when you think about it you actually know. Most people’s love is shallow in the first four reasons for getting married because it means nothing in actual deeds and actions. In some rare cases real love in the sense of partnership love can develop but hey who am I to judge. This is just part one of the marriages section, wait for part two. Be blessed, God has a plan; just make sure you are living it.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

Life, What Do We Live For?

November 25, 2011 3 comments

It is never an easy question to understand what life is about. For some it is about success, for others it is about their children, whilst others it is about conquests, yet in all this very few people ever really realize life itself.

What we understand about life is that we are born with nothing except potential and we die with nothing except the potential we realize. In any grave no one is driving a car, or is with their kids, companies, careers, money, computers, or success. Until death do we part, applies to all of us, married or unmarried. When we are born none of us owns anything or brings anything into the world except a God given presence of potential. This fact or truth that we bring nothing with us and take nothing after we die should perhaps makes us wiser or more intelligent but we still find ourselves no better than the animals when it comes to understanding what life is about. By now it should be obvious to people that our lives on earth are temporary after all we all die, we live and we die. The after of that death is another subject all together but we do know for a fact or truth is that we are born and then we die.

It is easier to think of life as a journey where we start off with nothing but are not allowed to arrive at the destination with anything but our experience and accountability; everyone shall be accountable. In the journey however, we are allowed to use whatever we find in order to sustain the journey. There is nothing out of bounds except that which we choose and we are judged by how we treated each other and treated what is around us. We can choose to use what others used before us, or we can make out our own route. In our journey of life, some will get married, some will own business, and some will work during this time whilst some will simply acquire nothing. No matter what we do when we arrive at our destination we are never allowed to own anything except that which is in our minds. Here is the secret to life.

The road we travel on is called time and accountability. It can be found almost in any place which is why you can live in any country you choose. It is a route that one can make out on their own or travel with others but the truth is that, time is different for each and every person. Now, because the route is universal one is allowed to do anything they want in time because the journey’s destination is to arrive at a door called death which opens to another world; however the road of accountability is narrow but is in the wideness of specific time. At this door you cannot carry anything you have except that which is in your mind. Most people do not understand this so they are hung up on what they own and don’t own yet they do not realize one of the most powerful secrets in life, no one actually owns anything everyone is just using what they decide to use. We are all stewards.

In the journey of life, each and every person on earth has an opportunity to do what they desire and to live life in any way they want. It is all about choice, no person has been born with exclusive rights or a monopoly to anything on earth. Everything on earth is available to everyone; we just need to choose what we want. Our problem as humans is that we hold on to things such as experience, legacies, traditions, cultures, and circumstances and think this is what life is about. All we need to do in life is to just let go. If you want to live life, you have to let go of everything that you own. All the money, the relationships, the expectations, the experiences, the cultures, and the children; you need to let go. Letting go does not mean you disregard them but it just means that you learn to accept that nothing belongs to you, you are just a steward. Letting go empowers you to understand the relationships that you can have with the things around you, it was never an issue of ownership as we always think but it has always been an issue of life. Life is not what you own it is what you do with life. Most of us do not understand this so we spend our entire lives on ownership yet we will die and leave these things when instead we should be living life. A rich man may live in a mansion whilst the bushman in the bush; both will die and take nothing with them to the afterlife except the lessons of life. Who then would be richer? A man in a bush can learn more than a man in a mansion and the reverse is true.

What then as a person are you living for? Are you living to own the talents or are you living to use the talents to make the best of the journey of life. If you live to own the talents the truth is you will always bury the talents underground. If on the other hand you live to use the talents you will discover more and make more. You can lose one today and you can gain another tomorrow because you have learnt you are a steward on borrowed time and resources. God has a plan.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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