What Do You Mean by I Love You

It is funny how many people will tell you I love you in a relationship when you are still in the process of dating. It sounds fashionable to say. However if you really asked people what they mean by “l love you”, you might just discover that they have no idea what it means. The dictionary finds it very difficult to define yet it’s a word just like any other word but it has a power like no other. It can be used for great things or for great abuse. God uses it differently from how we use it.

When two people are dating and the other person says that they love the other one, they expect the same statement to be mentioned back. When these three words are exchanged it almost certifies the relationship, but what do they mean? Some say it means that I will be there for you but that is not true because no human has the power to determine if they will always be around. Some say it means I will always care for you but that is not always the case because there are times the very same person can get so angry with you wonder that they were talking about when they said they love. Other people bring in such things as it means trust, appreciation, patience, gentleness and all that but we know very few people ever uphold any of that. So what do you mean when you say “I love you”.

The other day I was watching a couple fighting because the husband had forgotten their anniversary. The wife said something I found interesting; she said “You do not love me because you are always forgetting our anniversary and my birthday.” What made this interesting to me was that she was qualifying the presence of love by what the husband does in terms of remembering dates. However when I further I analyzed this I found some loopholes. For instance anyone can remember another person’s birthday, anyone else can buy a person chocolate, anyone can listen to another person, all it needs is commitment and wanting to. If you look back how many couples had ex-friends who used to do all these things for them but along the way they decided they no longer loved them. I have seen and so have you, couples who commit to each other for more than twenty years and then divorce after having three or so kids. It is quite baffling, so what do you mean by “I love you”.

In my trying to understand what people mean by I love you I have come to the conclusion that we have no idea what we are talking about. Most of the time what we mean is “I want to possess you”, “let us have an agreement to be together”, “Can we sleep together”, “I need kids so I would like you to help me to make them”. How many people profess to swim the ocean for their love but cannot make meet an appointment with the person they love on time? How many people say that they will give you anything that you want but cannot give you their time when all you need is a hug? How many people say that everything will be alright but they never fight to make sure you are happy? How many people say that they will always be your friend but cannot even bother to write you an email or read yours? Strange if you ask me.
Now love, the real one, is more than just a word. It is the power that creates life. It is the essence of all beauty, the tapestry of all that is good. Love is the force that never gives up no matter what the situation is. It is the courage that knows no fear. It is the patience which can never be hurried. It is the perseverance that endures eternity. It is the goodness that defines all perfection. Love is the bond that holds the universe together. Love never fails. Love never ends. Love does not depend on anything in order to exist it just exists. Love needs no reason it is the reason by itself. It is the deepness that knows no ends or description. It is an ocean of calmness by which peace is defined by. Love is complete. So when you say “I love you” is this what you mean or are you just playing with words.

When you say “I love you” you must mean that you are saying that your love will never end and that it will always be there for all eternity. You must be meaning that no matter what you will always do your best because your love will not fade. You must understand that it means you will be patient for all times. You must realize that you will always be gentle with the person you say you love. You must realize that your love will fight for the happiness of that person no matter what the odds are. Humans are strange, we have teh greatest power at our disposal but we never use it to its potential, instead we settle for imitations. Anyway just in case you never say it first, “ l love you”

1Jo 4:18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has torment. He who fears has not been perfected in love.
1Jo 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God, and everyone who loves has been born of God, and knows God.
1Jo 4:8 The one who does not love has not known God. For God is love.
1Co 13:4 Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or
1Co 13:5 rude. Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do.
1Co 13:6 Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.
1Co 13:7 Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
1Co 13:8 Love never fails! Everyone who prophesies will stop, and unknown languages will no longer be spoken. All that we know will be forgotten.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

Why Are You Small?

Are you small because the world is big or because you believe in smallness? If the world is big then definitely you are small in physical terms. In physical terms when you stand next to a tree the tree will mostly tend to be taller than you, the mountain wider than you, the elephant bigger than you, the ocean deeper than you, the wind faster than you and the ground obviously will have more than you. We can excuse you in this when it comes to physical attributes because, well without being rude you are quite small.

However your belief has no bounds hence you can be as big as you want. You can travel anywhere you want, see what you like, be where you want to be, come up with inventions to change the world, change the world because of your belief, live the best life you could. If anything you could just be as small as the mustard seed but because of your belief you could become bigger than all that is around you. You can be deeper than the oceans, wider than the mountains, faster than the wind, bigger than anything alive and of course have more substance than the ground has. So why are you small?

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series