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Coached to Fail

December 16, 2010 Leave a comment

It is sad but most of us have been coached all our lives to fail. We may not realize it but our very views in life have been dominated by perceptions which are the cause of certain patterns in our lives. We like to blame a lot of people or circumstance but at the end of the day it us who subscribed to certain teachings which are the reasons for our lack of impressive progress.

We see things from a narrow view such that we never see beyond the careers, beyond the politics, beyond the queues. Our lives are usually like a person who stands in a queue waiting to withdraw money from a bank. The queues might be a long one such that it winds down at least three different corners. The stance that we take is that we need the money hence we need to be patient and we psyche ourselves ready for the challenge. We calculate the time it will take for us to spend in the queue and without much assessment we are ready. Everyone in the queue of course will be thinking the same thing hence we have plenty of company. The very sight of other people standing in the queue gives us the patience we need and the energy to suffer the queue. If the queue is slow we complain and grumble like everyone else and soon enough we are all in the conversation on how the service is terrible and how the bank needs to improve.

As we stand in the queue we go through several emotions. At first we felt hopeless because the queue was long, then we saw everyone else and we felt comforted that we are not alone in this quagmire. Afterward we got determined to tough it out, and then we got frustrated, at the end we got resigned to the fact that this how things are. The last feeling is the worst because this is the sign of ultimate failure, when we resign and simply say this how things are. In life this is what we are told every day, whether we are at the bank, the market, at work, at home, in politics, or whatever situation we are simply told this is how things are. The worst part is the person who tells us is ourselves. What we never notice is that perhaps the queue is long because of other reasons. Even if we know these reasons we simply resign to the fact that this is how things are. Now facts are temporary states which are not necessarily the truth, so we need to be wary of this. Food for thought.

The queue could be long because we always come at the wrong time. Most of us usually try things at the wrong time. Remember there is a season for everything and a time for all things. we drive when everyone else is driving yet if we were just thirty minute early we would avoid the traffic jams; maybe if we studied for just six months in advance of our exams we would pass instead of jumping into the band wagon of waiting for others so that we feel they are many of us doing the same thing. Sometimes the queue is long because we are at the wrong place. They maybe ten banks in the city but we always insist on the same bank which is the one that everyone else goes to. It is like insisting in a career that everyone else says is ok yet it may not be the best for you or simply insisting on the same type of guys yet they always break your heart. Food for thought.

The queue may be long because some people keep jumping the queue, instead of speaking out or preventing this everyone just accepts and says it is normal. It is like in life when someone takes credit for your work yet you were there first, you did all the hard work but someone just comes and goes in front of you and gets the price and recognition before you do. Instead of fighting for your rights you just stand and remark that people are very selfish. Your remark unfortunately does not help you it only makes you a worse person because you are comfortable with wrong things. If a person broke into your house whilst you were there, you would fight them off because they have invaded your space, same thing in the queue of life why then would you just stand and lose your part in the sun. food for thought.

Finally though they are many other reasons let us touch on the most important one. The queue could be long because the bank has poor service. Now this is one is very common yet very few people can change this or more accurately very few people think they can change this. No one confronts the bank to force them to change the way they do business. The bank could add more tellers, separate queues instead of forcing everyone to stand in the same queue. As far as we are concerned at that time in the queue it is normal yet it is not normal. Normal is what we agree to but does not mean it is the things to do. If we all agree to bath at eight in the morning, it becomes normal yet the time can still be changed.

You may not be able to change the world but at least you can make a difference. We all need to open our minds and hearts to greater things. stop living like you have no choice and embrace the truth that everyone lives under the sun, opportunity is there for everyone. Just because someone put border between countries does not mean there should be borders in your mind on creating opportunity. Be blessed, this is just food for thought.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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The Day I Hunted for My Worst Enemy

December 7, 2010 Leave a comment

The other day some years ago I decided enough was enough. I decided it was time for me to confront the enemy that had been sabotaging my life and my ideas. The only problem with this is I had no idea what was the identity of that enemy, so with my frustration in hand and my determination in mind I sought to seek out this enemy. I told myself that once I find him or her I would come out the victor.

You see, I had tried my hand in many things and of course had dreamt a lot of ideas but they just seemed to end just as fast as they begun. I suppose you could say my story was a story of failed businesses, love interests, house hunting, asset ownership, career progress and so many other failed endeavors. It just never seemed to make sense. I suspected a lot of different players in my life to be the saboteurs of my progress in life but I had to pin point them. Funny enough my name stands for victory but I was just no getting it lately in life. So armed with my new found determination and of course driven by my deep seemingly justified fustration I started to draw the list of suspects so that I could deal with them. My plan was to prove that they were the reason I was failing and of course if I then confront them I would be able to stand up for myself. Now that is a plan amde in heaven.

Now as I was sitting in my living room my first suspect was that perhaps it is one of my friends. I started to think, could it be that my greatest and worst enemy were my relationships with my friends. After all I had tried a few things which involved my friends and had failed in some things with them. The more I analyzed, I realized that it could not be that. It could never have been my friends. I have very determined friends who also want to be successful; they always give it their best and just like me they were also failing in their endeavors so for me to accuse them would just be the same as saying I was their greatest enemy because I am their friend. Now I have never set out to sabotage anyone and I do not think that my friendship with anyone ever intentionally caused the failure of any of my friends. So no, I quickly brushed that suspect off the list. So who was my worst enemy I thought.

Just then the bill for the water was pushed under my door, and it was quite an amount. I fumed and thought perhaps the government is my worst enemy. After all they set the policies, tax my little income, deprive me of some freedoms in some instances and other things I cannot mention. Are not governments supposed to ensure all people have housing and good income? It sounded like a good argument until I started to try to identify who was the government and where I stood. As much as I did not want to admit it I had to heed that the government was not really a person but a system put up by people. The problem was not that the system was to my disadvantage the problem was that I was not able to use the system to my advantage. The fact that the system was set up by people who if I must admit are not even close to my IQ means that with my IQ I could set up a better system. So in that case then, I was partly to blame because I had not put any input into how the system should run. Instead of complaining when the banks did not work, I would keep quiet; instead of challenging the bad policies I just grumbled like everyone else and let it pass. At the end of the day the bad things any government does is because the people allow it. The people are the army, they are the police, they are the ministers, they are the policy makers, and they are at the end of the day the engine that allows the governments to survive. So I concluded the government was not my worst enemy. This only set me back because now I was still nowhere close to finding the answer.

Just then a Pastor came out on TV preaching about how the devil was not to be feared. “Aha”, I thought, “this was my answer”. Let us admit it they are times when things just go wrong in life when there is no one around and you wonder what is going on. It is like some invisible person is just trying to sabotage you even when you are thinking your ideas in your private room and all these insane thoughts come. I quickly grabbed my bible and went into the Genesis book and read the part where the devil tricks Eve and Adam into disobeying God. As I sat on the sofa wondering, another thought came into my mind, was Eve tricked or she chose to believe the devil. My brain started to create a court case in mind, Eve knew the one law of the garden which was that they were not to eat the fruit from the tree of knowledge and good. In that circumstances the devil did lie to them, the truth still remained they are the ones that reached out to touch and eat the fruit. The argument then becomes whose hands passed the fruit into the stomach and whose teeth chewed the fruit. Eve was under no duress but was simply presented with an opportunity to break the law and hence in a court of law we would say she conspired with the devil to break the law. That would make Eve, Adam and the devil joint conspirators making them just as guilty. We would identify the devil as the mastermind, Eve and Adam the ones who carried it out. There was no duress in this situation it was a willingly situation. They chose to listen to the deceit and not the truth. So in this case who was their worst enemy?

By now I was getting a bit stressed because I was diving into a terrain of thought I had never been in. How could all these suspects not be my greatest enemy? I had built a case but all my arguments seemed to be falling. Looking at history I realized that there was two reasons why mankind acts the way they do. You cannot act because of both at the same time, at anytime you actually operate under the influence of one of the two. The one reason was my greatest ally and the other was my worst enemy. As a child I realized that l had learnt to use the two in different ways at different moments. The result I got in life was determined by one of the two. It dawned on me that these reasons were also an idea which existed in my head. They were a concept that I valued and cherished but of the two I did not need one. I was glad I had found my greatest enemy. Looking into all my suspects, I realized they all used this idea to their advantage and also to their disadvantage; they also had used it to their demise. Instead of standing for the other one they had used the wrong one. It is the reason why people go to war, why nations fall, why fathers neglect their children, why people oppress each other, why lies are told, why murder is committed, why pollution exists, why hate is alive, why nature is abused. The devil was defeated by Christ on the cross and he is still your enemy but your worst enemy is simply the other reason. In other words I declared, “You Have All Been Fooled.”

Mat 10:28 And do not fear those who kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul. But rather fear Him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.
Rev 20:14 And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death
1Co 15:26 The last enemy made to cease is death.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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