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Lessons Learnt from a Baby?

February 21, 2012 3 comments

When we are born, are we born sad, happy, angry, anxious, afraid or even hateful? It’s an interesting question which we can ask babies but it would not make any sense to the baby.

Every baby has no idea what the word sad means, or happy means to them, simply because they have not been taught how to associate meaning to that word. Instead babies understand the world according to the energy transferred to them. For example when you hold the baby and speak gently the baby understands this as comfortable and they love this, even though they have no idea what love is. Any baby crying simply needs a hug or rather being held in loving arms, this will eventually quiet them and assure them. Sometimes we fail to understand why the baby requires us to sing for longer periods or hold them for longer periods, it’s simply because love sometimes requires more time to assure people what it means. The longer the period, the greater the assurance that this is for real and is not just a trick to keep you quiet, the longer the period, the greater the transfer of that energy.

The energy around the baby is what determines the state of the baby. If it gets too hot or too cold the baby naturally feels uncomfortable, if there is too much fighting in the house or noise the baby will still react to this, not because they understand the problems or the implications of the problem. For example if there is a fire in the house, the baby will cry not because they are afraid of dying but because they sense the energy around them is not good. If the baby needs a napkin change the baby does not cry because it knows that its unhealthy it cries because the vibe or the discomfort caused by the napkin is not good for them. At that age the baby understand its environment according to the pureness of the energy in the environment and not the meaning assigned to the environment. If we ever learn to do the same we would be near perfection.

Clearly the power of the baby is not in understanding the meaning of words, it is in knowing the levels of energy around itself. In other words the baby is not born happy, sad, angry, and anxious, in love or in fear but rather the baby is born in perfect balance with life. All that the baby understands is that life is harmony, peace and balanced. All these concepts of hate, anger and love are learned. When a baby is born there is a bond between the baby and the mother and we call this bond love which is where we make the mistake. Our concept of love is based on conditional definitions, expectations and past experiences yet love is more than that. The bond between the mother and the baby is not formed by words, past actions or experiences, is not formed by proof or by any agreed definition it just exists. The bond between the mother and the baby simply exists, it is there because it is there. The baby understands this and knows that there is a connection between it and its mother. As adults because we do not understand what the bond is we find words to try and force things to happen between people, we may call it dating, or romance which in most times is a futile attempt to create bonds where we do not understand. So how does a bond exist?
Our biggest problems as adults are that we want a definition for everything yet words are the most inaccurate measuring tools ever used. The love that one feels can never be described to mean exactly what the other person feels. In other words, words cannot capture the energy of life unless if the energy is in the words. The only way a word can have power or life is if that word is life itself which is why God is the word and the word is life. A bond is not created by mere words or contracts, covenant or marriage certificates, a bond is created by awareness. In simpler terms you can never create a bond you become aware of the bond. Everyone in the world is connected but some are more connected than others. There are different types of bonds, some are partnerships, some are friendships, some are paternal, some are angelic, and some are godly whilst some are just merely human bonds. The more aware you are of the energy that binds you to someone the stronger the bond.

Things like anger, hate, fear and all the negative emotions which we think are emotions are all just conceptual energies which exist around us and sometimes reside in us. The power of such energies can be seen on how during the world wars, nations literally lived in hate around them. Hate is an energy that you tap into in the same way a radio catches the frequency of a broadcaster. In the same way so is love in its actual form; it can be caught in the air in as much as it is our very substance of creation so to speak. A charismatic preacher can broadcast a message of hate and people would tune into it, believe it, and foster it inside as their own, whilst on the opposite scale the same preacher can preach the opposite of that message to the same people and those people will also tune into it and make it their own. Babies are aware of such things which are why they are sensitive to certain people. Some people broadcast hate and anger all the time hence babies never like them whilst some broadcast love which is why they are so good with children.

Most people will not accept this but the truth is by the time you are over six years old you have been programmed to react and act in certain ways. What we call emotions today are simply associations of behavior defined over time to impact in certain ways. Instead we should be like children as Jesus said, take things for what they are and not what we believe they should be or must be. Understand the energy of life and act according to what the energy is and not what the emotion should be. There is a time for emotions and a time for motion, even God gets angry, anyway this is for part two.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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Five Shocking Reasons Why People Get Married

November 28, 2011 Leave a comment

A lot of people get married and most of the times more than half have no idea why they get married or really think about why they did. There are various reasons why people get married and in this article we shall explore the top five and only one of these actually makes sense.

Mum and Dad Syndrome
Most people are looking for a mum in the case of the men while in the case of a woman they are looking for a dad. So you find in some marriages that the wife will say that she has two children and one grown up child, the grown up child being the husband, after all she has to pick after him all the time. On the other hand the husband tells his closest friends that his wife cannot make decisions and is just a baby who wants him to do everything for her. Unfortunately it is true, most people are looking for their mothers and fathers in the relationships that they have. Such marriages are usually characterized with comparisons and heavy in-law influence. When there is a problem one of the two will run to their mum or dad for comfort or advice before even resolving things simply because they never learnt to deal with issues outside their mum and dad. In such marriages silly decisions are usually made.

The Wishing Well
Some people on the other hand get married because they believe the other person can fulfill their dreams. For example one person may think that they will never be able to make it in life so they find another person who can buy things for them, such things as houses, cars, take care of their children, take care of their parents, take care of their education and the list goes on and on. In such marriages there is one person who is the giver in material terms and the other is the giver in physical terms. These relationships can be either way, it can be the man or the woman who is the dependent. The other characteristics about such marriages is that they usually have very flashy and plush weddings in which one of them insists for the flashy wedding to subconsciously parade their catch so as to say. These can also be called trophy marriages as in which one someone is being paraded.

The Cultural Marriage
In the cultural marriage people get married because that is what humans are supposed to do. There is no real reason for the marriage but just that it is what must be done. Such marriages started out with a relationship in which the two professed love for each other which in most cases was not real or necessary. As time went on everyone started to see them as a couple and expected them to get married. As such the peer pressure and societal pressure resulted in them arranging a wedding and getting married. In some cases a baby may have been involved, in which during the relationship the girl got pregnant and hence according to culture it automatically meant that they should get married. Most of these marriages are characterized by sadness and lots of sacrifices. One of the two or both end up sacrificing their dreams in order to make the marriage work never ever realizing their dreams because they got married before it was time or they are just living with the wrong person. Some of these marriages are arranged or just planned by the parents and the two people really do not have a say in it. As time goes the two learn to accept their situation and just live with it and try to make the best out of it. Once in a while they will even try to prove to everyone that they are happy but deep down they know things could be different.

The Physical Addicts
This one is simple and stupid because they don’t know each other, have never understood each other but enjoyed the physical connection. In less than a few weeks or months they get married and wake up one year later and the other one is having an affair. These marriages are the fastest to divorces. Usually in these type of marriages they probably met at some function, some club, some party and just hit it off. They probably slept together within three dates of first meeting and never really knew each other. These marriages result in babies very fast and result in single parents very fast also. No need to write more on these ones.

The Partner
Perhaps the best reason for getting married is the partnership, in which two people understand their goals in life and have more in common than they do not have. In this type the two know what each one wants in the future and how they will achieve it. They are prepared to support each other without even thinking about it and believe that they can. They seem to have a connection or bond as sometimes they think in the same way. When they say words like I love you they mean they will do what they can to make each other’s dreams come true and will sacrifice for one another. This type of marriage is difficult to attain as it needs patience and belief. Most people fail to reach it simply because they rush into relationships and end up in the four reasons above.

Conclusion
In conclusion everyone reading this article knows where they fall in the above reasons. Sometimes it is a secret but when you think about it you actually know. Most people’s love is shallow in the first four reasons for getting married because it means nothing in actual deeds and actions. In some rare cases real love in the sense of partnership love can develop but hey who am I to judge. This is just part one of the marriages section, wait for part two. Be blessed, God has a plan; just make sure you are living it.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

Strategies of Marriage

January 18, 2011 4 comments

Ever wondered what the story would be like if we were to write the ever after of every fairytale after the two lovers have found each other for such fairy tales as Cinderella and the prince. Would you not want to know how they lived in the house and what kind of rules they had, or maybe how they treated each others families and friends? It would be interesting to understand that because after the day of marriage another adventure surely does begin.

In life you need a strategy in order to make it whether it be careers, war, journeys and believe it or not even marriage. When two people are involved in a relationship intending to get married they need to consider a few things. To start with you have the material concerns, things like food, clothes, and shelter. In the dating world the guy takes the girl out to all these impressive places and buys her all these gifts but the thing is that most of the time it’s just a lie. It is like presenting a mirage, pretending that one has a certain status in life so as to appear as being able to take care of the girl. This is why when the girl gets pregnant the guy runs, not because he is afraid of babies or pregnant women but because he knows he cannot take care of the baby, the mum and the rest of the responsibilities. As a couple, people need to plan and be honest with each other on how they plan to take care of one another.

Secondly there is the whole thing about unseen virtues. It is one thing to be nice when dating and it is another thing to have character and discipline when things are not so easy. When two people are together and are dating there is the whole thing about saying the nice things, but how many people actually mean it. How a girlfriend reacts when you cannot afford to buy her a valentine present will go a long way in telling you how she will react when things are not so rosy in the marriage. Of course one cannot always judge by one incident, you need to stay long enough in a relationship to see the real character of a person. If all you ever do is meet in a club, or restaurant then you are far from knowing the person. He or she needs to know who you are, what you are going through, where you come from because all these are importatant; believe this article and not me, these things will affect how you go forward.

Thirdly you need to have a plan for the kids. Children are a blessing and so should never be treated like a burden. People need to think of the kind of lifestyle they want their kids to have, the clothes, the school, the home and the parents they should have. There is nothing as painful as watching your kids starving whilst you are there and you cannot do anything. A family is a long term vision which you plan in the short term as well as the long term, it is the one thing that you should think about every day.

I hear people saying they want to get married, but are they getting married because of the idea or because they found the one true love that they will strategise with in life to make life beautiful. Life can be ugly if you marry for the wrong reasons. At the end of it all you should ask yourself these question, what strategies do you have in your marriage or relationship as a couple.
Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

Love-Two Ways To Know It Is Real

August 9, 2010 Leave a comment

Love-Two Ways to Know It Is Real

Defining love is not something anyone or any literature has been able to define within an acceptable phrase or description. Many definitions arise which liken love to one thing or the other or simple reference love to other emotion but never real attain that measure of satisfaction which can truly say that love has been defined. It is in this quagmire, that many definitions arise which lessens one experience of love and strengthen another experience. In the end a romantic love, paternal love, or godly love all  never seem to give justice in helping people to understand what love is. Confusion then reigns in understanding or finding love.

How then does one tell that what love is or have enough sufficient knowledge to experience it? The first thing to note is that love is a personal experience unique to every individual. Each person has an idea of what love is and hence each person has an idea of what to expect.  In our hearts we all carry precious cargo which is love, it is something that no one teaches us but we learn by ourselves. As we grow we understand that love is for us to either keep or to give away. The more we are comfortable with a person the more we are able to give it. In this regard the first point in understanding love is knowing that feeling which you get inside which you cannot place a definition to. When you feel that feeling inside then you know you have stumbled upon love. That feeling is like a light that lights up your soul such that things for moment though not making sense seem to make perfect sense.

The second thing about love is that it does not need a reason to exist. The point is this, we have love but it is not defined by reason but simply exists as it is. When we try to justify love we start naming other things which are not love as love, for example, we name infatuation as love, desperation, dependency syndrome, insecurity and we begin to call it love. In the end when this love that we have wrongly named does not act in the way we would want or simply does not get the type of reaction we expect we run and claim people are just insensitive. Love does not need excuses or reasoning for you to identify it, it just needs feeling. Love is a feeling which you feel not what you obtain or create.

When we want love we need to first understand ourselves because this is where love comes from. It comes from the inside of our hearts and we have the power to make that love manifest. Everyone wants to be loved and to find love, sometimes this quest becomes such an infatuation we think in order for us to become incomplete we need to find someone who is going to make us feel loved. The truth is the opposite we need to love ourselves first before we can find love because if we do not understand ourselves when someone else comes to give us their love we will fail to recognize it because we have never known it for ourselves. Our expectations become clouded with confusion with what love truly is.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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Just Watch


After everything has been said or done, all we can do is watch. It is a pity that a person you love so much may be so far for you to help them even if they are standing in the same room as you. They could just be an arm’s length away but you really cannot change their mind or make them see what you see. Sometimes you can see the future n how it will change and what they are doing to make the future not so rosy. You cannot do anything at the time, all you can do is watch, because as much as you speak and try to help the person they just never see things the way it is. In such cases all you can do is observe and wait to pick up the pieces.

I suppose this is part of love, picking up the pieces and try to do something with it. Sometimes people will only see after an experience which makes them learn. Most people want to learn from experiences because they just do not move within the imagination of vision to see what will happen if they do not do things in a certain way. So what we can do is stand aside and let them have the experience they want so and just hope that the experience will not destroy them

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

Categories: Love

Mr and Mrs Right

June 30, 2010 2 comments

Mr. and Mrs. Right serve as fuel for each others aspirations. Their combination is like the seeding of the clouds to make it rain. They balance each other like the perfect garden of love. Each sees things with one eye and when they are together they see both sides of the story. They hear everything together and understand it when they put their views together. They collect diverse data and create a single form of information together. Mr. and Mrs. Right are like the inspired story of love that never ends because they are each others wells of strength. They are like twin stars that shine together at all time. In the face of adversity they are like the bow and arrow, together forming an awesome weapon. Their love is permanent, when it is day they are the sun full of light, when it is dark they are like the moon ever present and defiant against the odds. Mr. and Mrs. Right remind me of the lovely rainbow after a storm, they bring beauty into diversity. You can search the desert for a greater love but Mr. and Mrs. Right are like the oasis that keeps its place when all else around it is dry. They are a fairy tale that should be called the “righttale”. They have seasons of the year but are the same year. Mr. and Mrs. Right are the perfect cell phone, always having network to true love. Good morning Mrs. Right this is just another letter from Mr. Right. Lots of Love.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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Please Walk Away

June 16, 2010 Leave a comment

Before it is too late, please walk away. Life is like a domino game where you lay up the domino and each domino affects the next one such that you end up with a definite result. What you do today will affect your tomorrow, such that tomorrow you may not know but we have a good idea what is going to be like.

If you force yourself to have a baby with a guy you know is not good for you just because you have been sleeping with him your life will be unhappy, it is that obvious. If you marry a woman by compromise you will always be looking for something better. If you do not read for a test you will fail, if you do not pay for your electricity the power will be turned off. Life is a cause and effect, please walk away.

Look at your self and ask your self what it is that you really want in life. Be honest and assess where you are. Is this the place you always dreamed of as a kid? Is this the person you want to spend with the rest of your life? Is it worth being beaten up everyday by this man on a daily basis, is this your dream? Look at yourself and be true to yourself. Is this the career you always dreamed of? Are you happy spending the hours that you do at the office? Is there anything in your life which makes sense, which makes you happy or are you living a lie?

If you abort your baby tomorrow you will always think about it and suffer mentally for it because it will haunt you always. If you do not write that exam you might not get the qualification in time to apply for that job when it is advertised in the near future. If you keep sleeping with every girl you go out with you will soon be so confused you cannot recognize real love when it knocks on your day. Please walk away.

Life is a cause and effect, you reap what you sow in time. If you want to be happy in time then plan the things which at harvest time will be good for you. Water only the things which will grow to produce fruit for you. Do not waste you airtime calling people who are of no use to your future. Do not go to places which never increase your worth or gain you anything. Do not work in jobs which only stress you and cause you health problems. Do not engage a person who is not going to make you feel at peace or happy. Why are you wasting your time with relationships which make no sense to you? Please walk away, it is better to cry now than to spend a life time crying and trying to fix your entire life because of one mistake. I am your brother and I love you.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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