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Strategies of Marriage

Ever wondered what the story would be like if we were to write the ever after of every fairytale after the two lovers have found each other for such fairy tales as Cinderella and the prince. Would you not want to know how they lived in the house and what kind of rules they had, or maybe how they treated each others families and friends? It would be interesting to understand that because after the day of marriage another adventure surely does begin.

In life you need a strategy in order to make it whether it be careers, war, journeys and believe it or not even marriage. When two people are involved in a relationship intending to get married they need to consider a few things. To start with you have the material concerns, things like food, clothes, and shelter. In the dating world the guy takes the girl out to all these impressive places and buys her all these gifts but the thing is that most of the time it’s just a lie. It is like presenting a mirage, pretending that one has a certain status in life so as to appear as being able to take care of the girl. This is why when the girl gets pregnant the guy runs, not because he is afraid of babies or pregnant women but because he knows he cannot take care of the baby, the mum and the rest of the responsibilities. As a couple, people need to plan and be honest with each other on how they plan to take care of one another.

Secondly there is the whole thing about unseen virtues. It is one thing to be nice when dating and it is another thing to have character and discipline when things are not so easy. When two people are together and are dating there is the whole thing about saying the nice things, but how many people actually mean it. How a girlfriend reacts when you cannot afford to buy her a valentine present will go a long way in telling you how she will react when things are not so rosy in the marriage. Of course one cannot always judge by one incident, you need to stay long enough in a relationship to see the real character of a person. If all you ever do is meet in a club, or restaurant then you are far from knowing the person. He or she needs to know who you are, what you are going through, where you come from because all these are importatant; believe this article and not me, these things will affect how you go forward.

Thirdly you need to have a plan for the kids. Children are a blessing and so should never be treated like a burden. People need to think of the kind of lifestyle they want their kids to have, the clothes, the school, the home and the parents they should have. There is nothing as painful as watching your kids starving whilst you are there and you cannot do anything. A family is a long term vision which you plan in the short term as well as the long term, it is the one thing that you should think about every day.

I hear people saying they want to get married, but are they getting married because of the idea or because they found the one true love that they will strategise with in life to make life beautiful. Life can be ugly if you marry for the wrong reasons. At the end of it all you should ask yourself these question, what strategies do you have in your marriage or relationship as a couple.
Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

  1. reyney fanakalo
    January 19, 2011 at 2:42 pm

    hi, nice article…

    • Winston M.
      January 19, 2011 at 4:24 pm

      Thank you reyney. Good to hear from you. Be Blessed

  2. Effective
    January 23, 2011 at 8:31 pm

    Thought provoking article. Really interesting and quite realistic. Nice writing too.

  3. January 27, 2011 at 10:01 am

    Very nice site!

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