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When I Grow Up Why Do I Fail

When I grow up I want to be rich and successful. I want to have the best house money can afford and of course drive the best car in the world. I will travel the world and go places I have never heard of. I will get married and have three beautiful children who love me with a beautiful supportive partner. This is what we all say when we are still children but somewhere along the line we lose it all. It seems we go astray, why?

Most of the people I know are not living the dreams they used to talk about when they were growing up. In fact most people are living someone else’s dream. Some have completely wrong careers; some have wrong partners, some have children that they never planned but all in all most people are just not happy they are still looking for that happiness. How many people in around us can we really say they are living the life they always dreamed of? If we are honest with ourselves we will find that we are still active participants in a carrot race which might never end. Whether we like it or not most people will die without realizing what they really wanted when they were kids. Why is it like that?

The thing is we believe in time too much. Most of us say when we grow up this and this will happen but we forget that time is not a physical entity but rather is a concept we use to measure the rate of change. Time doe not cause things to happen rather events course time to exist. When you wake up and it is a Monday it is not that Monday exists, the fact is that you are describing the day as Monday. If humans had not defined a day and called it Monday then Monday would not exits. When we refer to the statement “When I grow up” we are wrongly saying that time will bring events to us. In our minds we think if we reach twenty or thirty years somehow all the things we ever wanted will have been brought to us but we never ask the question, who should bring these things to us?

Instead of seeing time as a place where we receive things we should see time as a resource we use to create events. For example a person who says in the next two years I am going to save ten thousand dollars to start a home business has a greater opportunity than a person who says in two years time I will start a business. The person who does is better than a person who speaks. When we were growing up we spoke as kids but never planned. No one taught us what we have to do in order to get these things, instead we just grew up thinking things will just happen. As we grew up we had no idea that the type of house we wanted would cost a certain amount of money hence we would need to be earning enough to buy a house. If you want to buy house that costs a hundred thousand dollars and pay it off in one year then your income has to be at the least be equal to two hundred thousand dollars after tax per annum. That means there are some jobs you should not waste your time looking for. This is what we should have understood but instead we found ourselves working for jobs that pay you less than twenty four thousand dollars after tax, consequently we spend our entire lives trying to buy a house.

The same works for relationships, instead of looking for partners that are at the same level of dreams and action we ended up for the surface attractions which are short term but never fully satisfy the long term. Simply put most people are compatible in cheap talk but not deep enough for the long run. The problem with people is that we measure life by what we see forgetting that life is about the past, present and future, so most of the time instead of judging the past and the future we tend to just dwell on the present.

Look at yourself really well and be honest, are you really living the life you want or you just caught up in a rat race? As a result of our failure to use time this is why we work overtimes when we do not want to, live in places we would rather not, do things we never thought we would do, talk like we would never do, and spend our lives chasing dreams we never seem to accomplish. However there is a solution to all this.

Winston is the author of the book “You Have All Been Fooled”, a ground breaking book about capability and ability that challenges your very perspective of life.
Also available on Amazon.com

Ecc 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time for every purpose under the heavens:
Ecc 3:2 a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pull up what is planted;
Ecc 3:3 a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
Ecc 3:4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
Ecc 3:5 a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
Ecc 3:6 a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away;
Ecc 3:7 a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
Ecc 3:8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Ecc 3:9 What profit does he have who works in that in which he labors?

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Winston’s books are available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

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