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Chemicals of Love H2O

It’s not surprising that people can date for seven years and break up or be married for twenty years with children and still have a divorce. The problem is not love it’s a simple case of misunderstanding nature. Flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone is not just a romantic statement but is a statement of chemical proportions. Hold on. In nature there are different substances made from different elements. We have pure elements, chemical substances, chemical compounds and of course mixtures.

The most natural and highest level of relationships have chemical affinity. This is when two elements join together such that the two lose their own properties to form a completely new substance altogether. These elements have a natural attraction such that their very basic atoms are attracted to each other. Let’s call this level, the Adam and Eve Level, because at this stage there is no such thing as dating being required, it is the most natural level. Some people are privileged enough to know this and wait for this moment in time when they can meet their element who is also attracted them. Unfortunately this level is not very common, forming only 7-8 percent of marriages in the whole world.

Some elements on the other hand have no natural affinity and require such intense heat and pressure to combine. In other words these need so much effort and work; hence the term let us work it out in most relationships. Normally they have no attraction between them or the attraction is weak but out of desire to be bonded to something they subject themselves to very high pressures and heat or cold.  Sometimes such chemicals can be highly unstable and volatile. Such relationships contain many compromises on both sides. The relationships can work but needs more effort. Let’s call this level the Jocob and Leah level. These relationships eventually have an attraction between the participating elements but it is never the real reason why they got together there is always another reason bugger than love. Well these are the majority of marriages so let’s give them a seventy percent existence.

Now on the lowest level are the mixtures. These are funny relationship but are very common also. Sometimes they result in marriage, staying together, dating and all that stuff. A mixture is a substance where there is no real chemical bond but just a getting together. The funniest things about mixtures are that they have no real proportions. Sometimes one substance increase more than the other at any time. Mixtures are easy to separate and see because you can still recognize their different elements. It’s like a sugar and water solution. When you mix water and sugar it looks like the sugar has disappeared but all you need to do is taste the solution and you can taste the sugar or water. They are two people who are together but are not one, they still possess their individualities. Mixtures obviously are a waste of time but anyway this is why we date, to mix and mingle and experiment to see if there is any affinity but we never really give of ourselves.

Three people asked me yesterday why they can never have a stable relationship well here is the answer, “the chemistry of love.” If you are in a relationship or marriage, if you really look hard enough (be honest at least) you will see that you fit into any three of these categories. if you are dating and you discover that you are not in 7-8 percent or that your relationship does not fit into the natural affinity level, here is my advice, RUN. If you are having second thoughts and you realize you are not in affinity, RUN. If you discover that you have to put a lot of work into this dating relationship its simple, RUN. If you notice that he or she has a tendency to slide away once there is a little cooling or heat I suggest you RUN.

Now if you are already married and you believe that your marriage is not based on the 7-8 percent level I suggest that you ….., well I cannot spoil PART 2.

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  1. Lee
    April 29, 2010 at 12:16 pm

    I really love the way you have put everything together, it’s quite lovely stuff you have enlightened me on. Really when you look at different kind of relationships not wanting to judge on people but these patterns exist.
    But my question is then why is it most of the marriages in existance as you have put it are the work hard, compromise type … Is it because we have no patience to wait for the one we attract and we attract them? Or basically it’s a road map to finding the “the chemistry” ? I wonder…, Looking forward to PART 2

    • nolimitsfoundation
      April 29, 2010 at 1:26 pm

      Hi Lee
      life is interesting and live, well quite amazing.

  2. April 29, 2010 at 1:15 pm

    Thanks a lot, this a very insightful article as always, can’t wait for the PART 2

    • nolimitsfoundation
      April 29, 2010 at 1:25 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it, it actually made sence to me for the first time in a while

  3. Leine
    April 29, 2010 at 4:13 pm

    This piece makes alot of sense, but I think it’s rather simplistic. There is no basis for it: human relationships are more complicated than that. Every relationship needs work, even that of mother and child.
    I don’t particularly believe in soulmates, I do believe in affinity and working together to build something that lasts. Nothing indicates that Adam and Eve didn’t have to work hard in their relationship (after the fall).

    • nolimitsfoundation
      April 30, 2010 at 5:29 am

      Hi Leine
      Nice to hear from you. Interesting views i must say. Life is not complicated, it is simply a yes or no. People are the ones who complicate things. If someone loves you, would it be difficult for them to argue with you and not get angry with you over ten minutes, even if they did get angry they would still be able to just hug you smiling. Work is when you have to consistently be defending yourself, and explaining yourself because the other person just does not get you at all. A mother can make all these crazy decisions while the child is growing up but the child never asks she just follows becasue she trusts in the mother. The mother can even go as far as to scold the child but the child will still be there the next day trying to get close to the mother. That kind of work is natural attraction becasue of genuine love and bonding. then you have where two people in love consistently are in a battle to convince each other and to work towards something but their first enemy is their own partner becasue there is just no support or trust there, now that is work. A good work is where the energy put into a relationship does not feel like a warzone or you feel drained all the time. It should be such that when you wake up you are inspired to do even more for the relationship because it feels good to do it, not becasue it feels like an obligation.

  4. kudakwashe
    April 30, 2010 at 9:34 am

    cool staff

    • nolimitsfoundation
      April 30, 2010 at 9:44 am

      True that Kuda. Thanks

  5. Florence
    April 30, 2010 at 11:29 am

    What a discussion! Life is not complicated but we complicate it……….I agree.

    Not complicating life is just inevitable. There are no hard and fast rules to relationships. But if one is lucky/ blessed enough and have the courage and has hope for better things to come, surely i agree………….. RUUUUUUUUUUUN.

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