Lessons Learnt from a Baby?

When we are born, are we born sad, happy, angry, anxious, afraid or even hateful? It’s an interesting question which we can ask babies but it would not make any sense to the baby.

Every baby has no idea what the word sad means, or happy means to them, simply because they have not been taught how to associate meaning to that word. Instead babies understand the world according to the energy transferred to them. For example when you hold the baby and speak gently the baby understands this as comfortable and they love this, even though they have no idea what love is. Any baby crying simply needs a hug or rather being held in loving arms, this will eventually quiet them and assure them. Sometimes we fail to understand why the baby requires us to sing for longer periods or hold them for longer periods, it’s simply because love sometimes requires more time to assure people what it means. The longer the period, the greater the assurance that this is for real and is not just a trick to keep you quiet, the longer the period, the greater the transfer of that energy.

The energy around the baby is what determines the state of the baby. If it gets too hot or too cold the baby naturally feels uncomfortable, if there is too much fighting in the house or noise the baby will still react to this, not because they understand the problems or the implications of the problem. For example if there is a fire in the house, the baby will cry not because they are afraid of dying but because they sense the energy around them is not good. If the baby needs a napkin change the baby does not cry because it knows that its unhealthy it cries because the vibe or the discomfort caused by the napkin is not good for them. At that age the baby understand its environment according to the pureness of the energy in the environment and not the meaning assigned to the environment. If we ever learn to do the same we would be near perfection.

Clearly the power of the baby is not in understanding the meaning of words, it is in knowing the levels of energy around itself. In other words the baby is not born happy, sad, angry, and anxious, in love or in fear but rather the baby is born in perfect balance with life. All that the baby understands is that life is harmony, peace and balanced. All these concepts of hate, anger and love are learned. When a baby is born there is a bond between the baby and the mother and we call this bond love which is where we make the mistake. Our concept of love is based on conditional definitions, expectations and past experiences yet love is more than that. The bond between the mother and the baby is not formed by words, past actions or experiences, is not formed by proof or by any agreed definition it just exists. The bond between the mother and the baby simply exists, it is there because it is there. The baby understands this and knows that there is a connection between it and its mother. As adults because we do not understand what the bond is we find words to try and force things to happen between people, we may call it dating, or romance which in most times is a futile attempt to create bonds where we do not understand. So how does a bond exist?
Our biggest problems as adults are that we want a definition for everything yet words are the most inaccurate measuring tools ever used. The love that one feels can never be described to mean exactly what the other person feels. In other words, words cannot capture the energy of life unless if the energy is in the words. The only way a word can have power or life is if that word is life itself which is why God is the word and the word is life. A bond is not created by mere words or contracts, covenant or marriage certificates, a bond is created by awareness. In simpler terms you can never create a bond you become aware of the bond. Everyone in the world is connected but some are more connected than others. There are different types of bonds, some are partnerships, some are friendships, some are paternal, some are angelic, and some are godly whilst some are just merely human bonds. The more aware you are of the energy that binds you to someone the stronger the bond.

Things like anger, hate, fear and all the negative emotions which we think are emotions are all just conceptual energies which exist around us and sometimes reside in us. The power of such energies can be seen on how during the world wars, nations literally lived in hate around them. Hate is an energy that you tap into in the same way a radio catches the frequency of a broadcaster. In the same way so is love in its actual form; it can be caught in the air in as much as it is our very substance of creation so to speak. A charismatic preacher can broadcast a message of hate and people would tune into it, believe it, and foster it inside as their own, whilst on the opposite scale the same preacher can preach the opposite of that message to the same people and those people will also tune into it and make it their own. Babies are aware of such things which are why they are sensitive to certain people. Some people broadcast hate and anger all the time hence babies never like them whilst some broadcast love which is why they are so good with children.

Most people will not accept this but the truth is by the time you are over six years old you have been programmed to react and act in certain ways. What we call emotions today are simply associations of behavior defined over time to impact in certain ways. Instead we should be like children as Jesus said, take things for what they are and not what we believe they should be or must be. Understand the energy of life and act according to what the energy is and not what the emotion should be. There is a time for emotions and a time for motion, even God gets angry, anyway this is for part two.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series

Five Shocking Reasons Why People Get Married

A lot of people get married and most of the times more than half have no idea why they get married or really think about why they did. There are various reasons why people get married and in this article we shall explore the top five and only one of these actually makes sense.

Mum and Dad Syndrome
Most people are looking for a mum in the case of the men while in the case of a woman they are looking for a dad. So you find in some marriages that the wife will say that she has two children and one grown up child, the grown up child being the husband, after all she has to pick after him all the time. On the other hand the husband tells his closest friends that his wife cannot make decisions and is just a baby who wants him to do everything for her. Unfortunately it is true, most people are looking for their mothers and fathers in the relationships that they have. Such marriages are usually characterized with comparisons and heavy in-law influence. When there is a problem one of the two will run to their mum or dad for comfort or advice before even resolving things simply because they never learnt to deal with issues outside their mum and dad. In such marriages silly decisions are usually made.

The Wishing Well
Some people on the other hand get married because they believe the other person can fulfill their dreams. For example one person may think that they will never be able to make it in life so they find another person who can buy things for them, such things as houses, cars, take care of their children, take care of their parents, take care of their education and the list goes on and on. In such marriages there is one person who is the giver in material terms and the other is the giver in physical terms. These relationships can be either way, it can be the man or the woman who is the dependent. The other characteristics about such marriages is that they usually have very flashy and plush weddings in which one of them insists for the flashy wedding to subconsciously parade their catch so as to say. These can also be called trophy marriages as in which one someone is being paraded.

The Cultural Marriage
In the cultural marriage people get married because that is what humans are supposed to do. There is no real reason for the marriage but just that it is what must be done. Such marriages started out with a relationship in which the two professed love for each other which in most cases was not real or necessary. As time went on everyone started to see them as a couple and expected them to get married. As such the peer pressure and societal pressure resulted in them arranging a wedding and getting married. In some cases a baby may have been involved, in which during the relationship the girl got pregnant and hence according to culture it automatically meant that they should get married. Most of these marriages are characterized by sadness and lots of sacrifices. One of the two or both end up sacrificing their dreams in order to make the marriage work never ever realizing their dreams because they got married before it was time or they are just living with the wrong person. Some of these marriages are arranged or just planned by the parents and the two people really do not have a say in it. As time goes the two learn to accept their situation and just live with it and try to make the best out of it. Once in a while they will even try to prove to everyone that they are happy but deep down they know things could be different.

The Physical Addicts
This one is simple and stupid because they don’t know each other, have never understood each other but enjoyed the physical connection. In less than a few weeks or months they get married and wake up one year later and the other one is having an affair. These marriages are the fastest to divorces. Usually in these type of marriages they probably met at some function, some club, some party and just hit it off. They probably slept together within three dates of first meeting and never really knew each other. These marriages result in babies very fast and result in single parents very fast also. No need to write more on these ones.

The Partner
Perhaps the best reason for getting married is the partnership, in which two people understand their goals in life and have more in common than they do not have. In this type the two know what each one wants in the future and how they will achieve it. They are prepared to support each other without even thinking about it and believe that they can. They seem to have a connection or bond as sometimes they think in the same way. When they say words like I love you they mean they will do what they can to make each other’s dreams come true and will sacrifice for one another. This type of marriage is difficult to attain as it needs patience and belief. Most people fail to reach it simply because they rush into relationships and end up in the four reasons above.

Conclusion
In conclusion everyone reading this article knows where they fall in the above reasons. Sometimes it is a secret but when you think about it you actually know. Most people’s love is shallow in the first four reasons for getting married because it means nothing in actual deeds and actions. In some rare cases real love in the sense of partnership love can develop but hey who am I to judge. This is just part one of the marriages section, wait for part two. Be blessed, God has a plan; just make sure you are living it.

Winston is the author of several books. His breakthrough book was “You Have All Been Fooled”, a book about power, ability, and sheer determination in life. Available on the following
You Have All Been Fooled at Amazon
You Have All Been Fooled at Author’s Page
Winston’s other books include the following
Four Reasons Why Absolute World Peace is Impossible With Humans
The Spark of Life, Success and Relationships
The Book of Revelation Series